Do you have children with someone that you are no longer dating or married to? Well I have a piece of advice for you! No matter what the other parent has done or will do, DO NOT discuss your problems with anyone, especially someone of the opposite sex in front of the kids! They know mommy and daddy are not together anymore, but do they really need to know all the details???
They don't need to know mommy's new boyfriend is a loser or daddy's new girlfriend sleeps around. The break up may have been rough or the child support expensive but this is just another area where you must submit. Give those emotions, and feelings to God not the next ex. Yes they may be listening to you and they may even act interested but you are really giving them ammo to use against you in the future. All the while the children are absorbing life lessons for the future. As my Pastor always says more is caught than taught. Children may never say anything or give you any idea they are listening, but trust me they are. They are also taking internal mental notes of their tolerance level. They are forming a list of the things they will or won't deal with in their futures. As parents of course we want more for kids than we have or are able to give. So allow them to enjoy the life of love whether you have or not. Your bitterness is not their business. So stay true to yourself and learn how to fall in love with love!
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